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Compassionate Inquiry® and Positive Psychology for Men, Women and Partners Impacted by Infertility

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Infertility is Uncertainty on Repeat.

Some longings don’t need
fixing—just fierce,
Grounded care

Blending Compassionate Inquiry®, Relational Life Therapy,
neuroscience, and positive psychology to guide individuals—and soon,
couples and groups—through life’s tender emotional and relational
thresholds.

Book your Consultation Call

Blending Compassionate Inquiry®, Relational Life Therapy,
neuroscience, and positive psychology to guide individuals—and soon,
couples and groups—through life’s tender emotional and relational
thresholds.

Book your Consultation Call

WHEN LIFE SPINS BEYOND
Your CONTROL,
the Real Question isn’t WHY ME?
—It’s WHAT NOW?

Sumark
unexpected-triggers

No two stories unravel the same way.
No two hearts hold grief in quite the same shape.
You’ve done everything “right.”
And still—so much has slipped beyond your reach.

The unpredictability of infertility—
or any deep life rupture—can feel unrelenting.

You’re strong. That’s not in question.
But even strength needs somewhere to rest.
Somewhere to soften.

With trauma-informed, compassionate support,
I help you live inside the unknown—
without losing yourself to it.

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Words from My Clients

"I’ve always admired Dr. Gabor Maté but experiencing his work through Leila’s guidance helped me overcome not only stigma around male infertility, but also some of the deep held beliefs I hold around my own reproductive story. It was hard to get in touch with some parts, but when I did, a new perspective and possibility opened up. Forever grateful."

Miguel, Barcelona, Spain

"Real compassionate listening is the first thing I discovered here. The kind which doesn’t give advise afterwards but rather allowed me to find my own. That is gold. I am a better husband for it. Vielen dank, Leila!"

Bernhard, Hamburg, Germany

"Thank you Leila for showing me the compassionate way to support myself through dealing with trauma! Thank you for being there for me during a difficult period in my life!"

Nargiza, Melbourne, Australia

"This was the first therapist to really get me, not try to fix me or change me. I arrived pretty broken, angry and somewhat lost into my first session. But Leila has an in-depth understanding of infertility and its emotional fallout when trying to support a partner. She has a tremendous compassionate container and ability to offer new ways of looking at life and all the uncertainty and challenges it brings. Thank you, Leila!"

Peter, London, UK

"Leila provided enormous compassion and understanding due to her own lived experience. Knowing that she was always there to listen, guide and help me find new coping methods gave me a newfound strength to deal with what I can only describe as one of the most painful chapters of my life; the inability to conceive naturally."

Myriam, Dubai, UAE

“Leila's way of joining me has helped me grow more into myself and into my body. Her qualities of transparency, steadiness and love allowed me to feel safe to explore painful buried wounds, both with her and later on my own. Grateful beyond words."

Francesca, Northampton, USA

"I've done many years of personal work and have developed a lot of resistance along the way. Leila deeply heard and understood what I was saying and reflected back parts of myself that I couldn't see, but were clearly there. This allowed me to move forward with options I didn't know existed before."

Lisa, Boston, USA

"Leila is a warm, comforting, and compassionate listener. She not only listened, but inspired me to consider alternative ways of thinking, to look inward and treat myself with compassion as well. I have had other counsellors along the way, but Leila had personal experience and awareness of the emotional struggles I was dealing with."

Randi, Niagara Falls, Canada

"Leila is truly the trifecta: she has the lived-experience which is combined with her academic and professional experiences. She is also able to simply hold space, and understands that the goal of this work is not to "fix" something, the goal is self-compassion after a traumatic life event."

Michelle, Paris, France

"I have long been a fan of Dr. Gabor Maté’s work but never had the chance to work with one of his mentees. His approach lends itself so well to reproductive trauma. Leila is truly a compassionate embodiment of his work. Her personal experience with long term infertility is undeniably important for us seeking therapeutic support."

Anusha, Mumbai, India

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HI, I’M LEILA

You WON’T FIND any HOLLOW REASSURANCE here
Or WELL-MEANING OPTIMISM
DRESSED UP as ADVICE

Because I’ve been on the receiving end of:
“Just relax.”
“Stay positive.”
“Have you tried…?”

And I know how quickly words meant to help can land like silence—or worse.

True healing doesn’t come from forcing hope. It comes from turning toward what hurts—honestly, with support.

As a certified Compassionate Inquiry® practitioner, I offer a space to meet yourself with gentleness, to move through uncertainty with courage, to speak what hasn’t been spoken— and feel what’s long been held in.

Compassion here doesn’t rush your pain. It sits beside it. And it reminds you: this is not all of who you are.

Who I Help

All of my sessions—private, couples, and group—are gender-inclusive, trauma-informed, and deeply respectful of your lived reality.

You are welcome here if you are:

  • Navigating infertility—your own or your partner’s
  • Living with the aftermath of reproductive challenges or loss
  • Holding the invisible weight of medical interventions, uncertainty, or grief
  • Feeling untethered by a life shift that’s changed your sense of identity and connection

You are welcome here.

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What We Work Through Together

  • $ 100
  • 01.

    The IDENTITY CRISIS of INFERTILITY & Major
    Life Shifts

    When everything you believed about your body, your future, or your worth starts to unravel—
    we begin the work of remembering who you are underneath it all.

  • $ 100
  • 02.

    LOSING a SENSE of CONTROL

    We gently explore the patterns you’ve clung to for safety.
    We meet your coping with compassion.
    And we find steadiness—even when nothing feels certain.

  • $ 100
  • 03.

    Emotional Triggers & Unexpected Grief

    This isn’t just about outcomes.
    It’s about the grief no one warned you about.
    The ache that lives in doctor’s offices, waiting rooms,
    and conversations that collapse into clichés.

  • $ 100
  • 04.

    The Ripple Effect on Relationships

    When this struggle starts touching everything—your partner, your friendships, your connection to yourself—
    we work on finding language, safety, and new ways of being with each other.

And so much more

Because your experience won’t fit into a framework.
And neither will your healing.

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Get Support

WHEN is the RIGHT TIME
to SEEK SUPPORT?

Wherever you are in this journey—
we start there.

AT THE BEGINNING

You’ve just received a diagnosis.
The words are still echoing.
The plans you had for your future feel like they’ve been rewritten
without your consent.

You may be starting IVF or treatment,
but your body feels foreign, your thoughts fast,
and everything inside you is saying—
“This is too much.”

IN THE MIDDLE

You’ve been here for months—maybe years
The appointments, the waiting, the quiet disappointments…
they’ve started to feel like a second life.

You’re asking hard questions now.
How much more can I give?
How much more can I carry?
There’s grief. Jealousy. Exhaustion.
And an ache that’s hard to speak aloud.

AT A CROSSROADS

You’re not sure what’s next.
Continue? Pause? Stop entirely?

Or maybe you’ve conceived,
but the joy hasn’t arrived the way you expected.
Grief is still knocking.
The past hasn’t let go.

Or maybe you’re beginning to redefine
what life could look like
with or without the outcome you once imagined.

You don’t need to wait for clarity to begin this work.
You just need enough courage to take one honest breath.
We can start from there.

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No matter where you are on your journey,
I’m ready to meet you there.

Let’s connect.

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